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Freedom

The freedom of the whale

Ambiorn Happy
Fridag in Aarhus

Happy: Quietly in the ocean of the world, the whale glides through the blue water while singing. The ocean is clear and clean, full of krill. Every day, a ton of crayfish pours into the giant whale's open mouth. 200 tons of water in one mouthful. Some mouthfuls have 5 kilos of krill, others have 300 kilos of krill. Squeeze, and serve.

All whales hum when they are happy. They sing about love and good places to eat. Deep tones create an echo for 100 miles around. The whales hear each other over huge distances. Meet and have sex, in a way only whales know. His penis is 2-3 meters long, and when he ejaculates it is in the form of 20 liters of fertile sperm.

Then the whale hums again. Sailing through the sea and thinking, "It would be so nice to walk on two legs. To be human, and live in New York, and sit in a sidewalk restaurant, and ask for a little shrimp salad. It's not for me. Here in the deep sea I am free, here I can eat and love all day long."

Absolute perfection

Absolute perfection occurs in the seams in a wedding dress, the diligent tailor's hands, the hairdresser's magic, make-up. She is happy, she is getting married. Enters a church, meets her future husband. They have a party afterwards, for 3 days. The whole family is dressed in silk, gold and satin. Shiny shoes. Stiff shirt flaps. Gold rings. Diamonds.

And the night falls like logs of firewood in the dark. They cuddle up, they cling to each other in bed. They have made love so many times before they got married. Sex usually make them laugh and giggle, but now it's quiet in the hotel room. A clock ticks the small sharp clicks of the seconds getting born. The young couple is in doubt. How to make perfect love on your wedding night? He kisses her on the mouth. Spins her around and they lie in a spoon. "Perfect," she murmurs. They fall asleep together.

This is how we become more free

Recognition: More freedom is better. You want to be more free, we all do. Except for him who cannot feel his body and flies around under the ceiling, he wants less freedom to float away. What do you want in your life?

Here is the recipe for more freedom.

You are free to leave your family, burn your parents' house to the ground, and go away. But you are also free to live in your family, cherish your uncles, admire your father, love your mother, stick with your siblings. Family was never your choice, grandma chose you. The slender trees of your homeland were already standing outside the hospital windows when you were born. The family chose you. The family is a river you can swim in. The river is full of water you can direct into your fields when you grow grain. The family can carry you when you have to transport your furniture far away.

2 Check your family

You were born into a family, and it was they who gave you both life and freedom. The family gave you the language. Dance and music. Tradition for relationships and child nurturing. The family gave you everything, check out what you got from them. But don't get mad. Families are a river and you can't scold a river. If you get mad at the river because it makes noise and tears your plants away, you can walk away from the river, turn your back on it and walk away. But you can't stop the river.

Some people find it difficult to live with family. It is a mistake. Family makes us stronger. If family takes away our strength and makes us sad, then it is a mistake. It's the family's mistake.

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